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Amazing Fingering Guidance and Techniques | Learn How to Finger Like No Other

  • Sep.13.2021
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How to Finger:

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Fingering can be an exquisite and underrated art. It can be done as an act of foreplay or as the main event of a sexual adventure. Manual stimulation is actually one of the best ways to ensure that you or your partner are going to be able to reach that amazing orgasm you’re hoping for. Alternatively, getting fingered can also cause a lot of discomforts and even pain if it is done incorrectly. If you’re not sure how to finger either yourself or your partner’s vagina and or vulva, this guide to fingering can be your best tool for learning female fingering techniques and making fireworks happen in the bedroom.

What Is the Best Way to Finger a Girl

The first thing to note about this learning process is that not all vaginas and vulvas are the same. Vulvas and vaginas, like snowflakes, are each unique in the placement of their nerve endings. If you want to know the correct way to finger a girl,  you’re not going to be able to find a one size fits all answer. The best thing to do to know exactly what will make you or your partner have a pleasurable experience is to be sensitive and attentive about their unique body and pleasure. You can learn by asking, or by experimenting and getting responses from your own body, if you are fingering yourself, or your partner’s body, if you’re fingering a partner. If you are looking to learn how to finger a partner, a combination of body language, asking what your partner likes, and being open to learning about your partner’s body will work in your favor.

How to Finger a Girl for Beginners

If you’ve never tried fingering before, there are definitely some important things to keep in mind for the first time that you do. If you’ve done it once or twice, and you’re looking to get better, take a look at some of these fingering tips to step up your fingering abilities. While these tips are helpful for learning good fingering techniques, keep in mind that the best fingering technique is the one that your partner likes and not the one that you’ve read about other people liking. Try some of these things out and ask your partner what they like best for the best way to finger.

Beginning Steps to Finger a Girl

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The first piece of fingering advice to really pay attention to is your hygiene. Whether you are fingering yourself or your partner, it is an absolute dealbreaker if your hands are unhygienic. Always wash your hands before fingering someone. If you don’t wash your hands, bacteria and debris on your hands can cause bacterial vaginosis or yeast infections, and you really don’t want that. You should also pay attention to your fingernails and the roughness of your hands. If your fingernails are long they could harbor dirt and bacteria underneath the nails and if you have long nails or jagged cuticles you can actually cut the skin inside the vagina leading to pain and potential injury. Keep your nails trimmed and moisturize your hands to avoid roughness and discomfort. Don’t use heavily scented or strong moisturizers right before fingering because this could also irritate and cause problems.

How to Do Fingering

Now that you have ensured that your hands are ready, you can start the process of doing the thing. While not everyone enjoys the same exact fingering methods, something that is pretty much universal is that you should start slowly and then gradually get to a place that might get more vigorous or might not. If you start immediately by penetrating the vagina with your fingers, or with fast and hard motions on the clitoris, the response will be shock and discomfort instead of pleasurable sensations. Not to mention the fact that going in dry is an absolute fast track to pain. You will want to make sure that there is plenty of lubrication involved before you even think about inserting a finger into a vagina. You can get your partner wet by going down on her first, or you can start with some light and easy clitoral stimulation. You can also add sexual lubricants because even though the vagina is a self-lubricating organ, it doesn’t always lubricate on command when you want it to. Once you’ve done a little lubricating, you should still begin very slowly. The first thing to think about is the clitoris.

Clitoral Stimulation

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One of the most important tricks to fingering a girl is getting the clitoris involved. It is super important, and it can be done in a variety of ways. Ask your partner what they like, or play around with a few different patterns. Remember the key: start out slow. Some people like to eventually get some direct stimulation to the clitoris, others like fast tight circles that sometimes directly hit the clitoris, and others find that direct contact with the clit is too overwhelming and would prefer soft circles around it. With your tongue, the same can be achieved. Don’t try to force an orgasm out of someone by constantly amping up your speed and force. Be sensitive and feel your partner’s body language. Asking if your partner is into a certain thing you’re doing is always a good play. When you find something that your partner is really into, don’t continue to switch things up just for the sake of variety. Keep at it with the motions that your partner is reacting positively to, and you might just lead them to orgasm. You don’t even have to insert anything in the vagina to get to orgasm. Some people may even find it distracting to have vaginal penetration happening while clitoral stimulation is taking place, but some people with vaginas enjoy the sensation of vaginal penetration with clitoral stimulation.

Hitting the G-spot

Once you have gotten the clitoral stimulation going and there is plenty of lubrication, you can start to insert a finger. If that goes well, you can enter a second finger and start to introduce some G-spot stimulation. The G-spot is a fleshy part of the vagina that sits about 2-3 inches inside the vaginal canal. The G-spot can be in a slightly different place depending on the vagina, so feel around until your partner shows you they’re really into it. To stimulate the G-spot, insert your finger(s) into the vagina and make a “come here” motion.

Advanced Fingering Techniques

If you’re looking for something a little more advanced to spice up your solo or partnered pleasure session, you might find it fun to switch up the positions. If you’re interested in learning about some different positions to finger a girl, you could try fingering from behind, clitoral stimulation while you’re penetrating your partner with a penis or dildo, or vaginal penetration with your fingers as your partner sits on your face. Another way to make fingering more intensely pleasurable is to bring sex toys into the mix. When you use sex toys solo or with a partner, you can have way more stimulation with way less energy and focus on multitasking. For example, if you use a vibrator to stimulate the clitoris while you use your fingers to vaginally penetrate you can focus more on making the vaginal penetration amazing, and if your partner holds the vibrator, that can free up your hands to touch your partner wherever they like to be touched. That leads me to another way to enhance the experience: touching erogenous zones like the nipples, back of the thighs, bum, or neck. You can stroke these areas with your hands, give them soft kisses, or light nibbles.

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