This site uses cookies to ensure you get the best experience on our website.

You can do what you like and get paid! Write articles on the topic you like, work at home with well-paid work!

Bondage for Beginners – An Introductory Guide to All Things Bondage

  • Sep.03.2021
  • 6min
  • 0 0
  • 0
  • 123
bondage tutorial

In today’s world, there is a lot of information circulating about sex positivity and the normalization of kinks. It seems like more and more people are interested in trying out some aspects of BDSM, which stands for bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism.  Whether it’s from easy access to pornography or to a better understanding of fetishes and sexual exploration through online forums, many people are looking for a bondage tutorial to break into a new sexual realm. 

Popularized in part by the 50 Shades of Grey trilogy and other similar movies and novels, bondage is starting to become more of a common part of the average person’s sex life. This doesn’t have to go all the way to leather and chains right away, though. In fact, something as simple as a silk blindfold is technically considered bondage. Have you been fantasizing about trying handcuffs or knot play, but feel the need to understand the ropes (pun intended)? If you want to know more about bondage for beginner enthusiasts, we have some stellar tips for you in this article.

What Is a Bondage?

introduction to bondage

Bondage is the “B” in BDSM. It can be compounded with other BDSM components like discipline, dominance and submission, or sadism and masochism, but it can also stand alone. There doesn’t need to be any pain whatsoever involved in bondage. In fact, many people enjoy using soft or silky materials while incorporating bondage into their sex lives in the pursuit of greater pleasure and higher physical awareness. As I mentioned before, bondage could be as simple as a blindfold, but it can also get into the more heavy-duty chains and latex if that’s what you’re into. If you’ve never tried it before, a piece of bondage advice for beginners is to start slow and get a sense of what you like and dislike before you go investing in lots of fancy tools and accessories. You can start with that blindfold and nothing else to see how taking away the sense of sight can heighten pleasure as all the other senses become more intense. Another word of advice for novices is to do your experimenting with someone you know and trust. Communication is really key for anything that could get intense.

This means that a one-night stand or a person you’ve just met is probably not the best option when it comes to primary experimentation with BDSM. Before you try anything, there are some housekeeping items we should go over about BDSM in general. Firstly, make sure that you sit down and have a discussion with your partner about what your boundaries and desires are. If you feel anxious about telling your partner about these things, there will be more information about how to bring up trying new sexual activities with your partner a little later on in the article. There are ways to talk about what you’re interested in trying and what you’re uncomfortable with in a manner that is helpful and even sexy. Once you have this information, a safeword should be agreed upon. Whenever you’re doing anything related to BDSM, a safeword is the best way to ensure everyone’s safety.

A safeword is a word that wouldn’t ordinarily come up naturally in a BDSM play that is used to signify to all involved that the play must pause or stop entirely. The safeword should be something like tangerine or rocking horse; a word or phrase that is easy enough to belt out and that is obviously out of place in the scene. Safewords are important because sometimes when things get intense during a BDSM related activity, words like “ouch” or “oh no” might be involuntary but won’t reflect a partner wanting to stop like they would under normal circumstances. Using a safe word is a healthy way to ensure that consent is always present during any BDSM activity and that everyone can feel safe knowing they can exit the scene at any time.

How to Bondage

bondage guide

An important part of this bondage guide is helping you figure out the best way to ask for what you want when it comes to bondage play. You might feel awkward or intimidated by the idea of simply telling your partner you want to tie them up or that you want to be tied up in the bedroom. It could also really overwhelm someone to come home to find many new scary bondage toys set up in the bedroom. Don’t surprise someone with bondage, ever! You could bring it up after watching porn together, or a film like 50 Shades. You could also test out the waters by telling your partner about a friend (fictional or not) who is trying handcuffs in the bedroom and loving it. If your partner’s response is negative, you might have a bit more thinking to do about whether you want to proceed in asking them about doing something similar. You could still ask how they feel about it and if they’ve ever fantasized about something like that before. If their response is positive off the bat, you could easily turn the conversation into a plan for the two of you to order some new fuzzy handcuffs and a blindfold.

Introduction to Bondage

Once you have established the idea with your partner and everyone involved is enthusiastically consenting to some experimentation with some simple bondage, you’re going to want to start small. Think about trying bondage step by step, or a little bit at a time. This way you can find out what you like and what you might dislike, and then graduate to the more intense bondage practices. You’re not going to want to start with intricate rope knots and chains right away. Begin with easy bondage ideas like a blindfolded blow job or cunnilingus. For something like this, you don’t even need to purchase anything from a sex shop. You could instead use a necktie or an eye mask for sleeping. This blindfold can allow you to gain intimacy with your partner as their 4 other senses are heightened and filled with good feelings. The blindfold also takes some of the pressure off of the partner who isn’t sporting a blindfold because it gives them free rein not to worry about how they look. Once you’ve experienced the mildest of bondage, you might find yourself craving more.

One of the more important bondage tips for beginners is to use accessories that work for you and not against you. While it might seem like a good idea to cut corners for bondage tricks, when we get to the more intense stuff, you should be using the proper tools. When it comes to safe bondage, be sure not to use stretchy fabrics for tying someone up. If you use pantyhose for example, the stretchy nylon could get tighter the more the person who has tied up moves around. This could then make the knot almost impossible to get out of, potentially causing some fear, distress, and even pain.

Sexperts say that the best way to get into bondage is with quick-release or velcro restraints. Handcuffs that are easy to open up could also work well for a first-timer, especially fuzzy cuffs that are built for comfort. You could venture into cuffing your partner’s hands to a bedpost so that you are free to use yours however you wish. You can also take turns when it comes to who gets tied up and who is able to move about freely. There is more to BDSM than simply dominant and submissive roles that stay stagnant. If you know that you are 100% interested in being submissive, or 100% into being dominant, you can keep these roles the same. Many people find that it’s exciting to participate in both roles depending on the situation and the way they feel that day. Feel free to switch things up and try something new.

More Bondage Information

how to bondage

There are plenty of sites on the internet when it comes to bondage help and learning about more intricate rigging and rope techniques. To get into more specifics I would need to write a whole book, and trust me, there are many books on this topic. For more information about specific desires and techniques, there are websites like Kink.com and even Reddit. There are many places to find in-depth information that goes beyond simple bondage techniques.

In Conclusion

Now that you’re further on your way to knowing all about bondage, remember the bottom lines we outlined in this article. Make sure to practice bondage in a safe and communicative manner. Implement a safeword whenever you’re trying BDSM, and start with slow, low-risk ideas to begin your journey into the endless possibilities of bondage and BDSM!

0
0
Do you like this article?
no 0

Comments

Ask a question!

Dear visitors of My Sex Story, we are all here to help you to find answers to the most precious desires and sexual thoughts. You ask - we give!

Press the bottom below to ask us your most exciting sexual questions and our manager will help you to find the most wanted answer!

18+

You see this pop-up to make sure that you are 18+ to visit My-Sex-StOry. To confirm your age, click on the blue "YES" button to read articles about sex positions, sexual health, fetishes, and related tips about sex.

Are you 18?